Hi All – my name is Heather and I live in Central Florida with my boyfriend and our two and a half year old daughter. At 29, I have been a lot of things. A daughter (more specifically, an only child), a girlfriend, an undergrad and then, a graduate student.
Nothing has spiced up life like the many shades of motherhood. I have been a working mom and a stay at home mom. Both equally as hard, I might add. I have been a healthy mom and most recently, a disabled mom. I have both breast and formula fed. I have let Cassidy cry it out and I have given her a pacifier.
One thing that has never changed is the reality of the Iron Triangle that exists in motherhood. The metaphor of this triangle consists of work life, home life, and self-care; and the constant juggling act to balance them all.
Now, this triangle presents itself differently for everyone, and it is possible that your points will swap depending on your priorities. Most commonly what I experience is work and home life as my base, and self-care at the triangle’s peak.
The concept of the triangle is that you will always be able to juggle two points at the base of your triangle, no matter how skewed it becomes. However, you will always be reaching for your top point. Prioritizing based on your needs is inevitable however, it is how you adjust that will dictate the QUALITY of your life.
I may have been super productive at work, came home and cooked dinner, ran a load of laundry, did homework with the kids, but was too wiped out to read my book and/or exercise.
Maybe I did not get enough sleep due to a sick child and/or chores that needed to be completed by a deadline. But, the next morning I completed my workday responsibilities and did the bare minimum at home.
I am sure many of you are creating your own scenarios right now, and know that there is not any judgment here. I know that living these scenarios can cause: fatigue, burnout, guilt, anger, etc. My mission is to show others that everyone deals with the triangle and that you are not inadequate if you are not getting an A in every subject of your life. So what if Karen posted on social media that she baked cupcakes for her son’s class and then volunteered for her church before laying by the pool. I can GUARANTEE you, nobody’s life is comprehensively displayed on social media outlets. Everyone struggles.
Sex on a Weekday is all about adulting. The good, the bad and the ugly – all from my perspective. I wanted to create a platform that did not glorify the perfect lives displayed on social media. I wanted my platform to be raw. I wanted to show my struggles and down the line create a community in which we all root for each other’s success. I believe wholeheartedly that the future is female – and that if we all band together despite our minor differences, we can run the world.
Motherhood is hard but incredibly worth all of the sacrifice. Let us be gentle with ourselves and build a community that fosters growth and development.
XOXO – Heather